I come from a well to do family. I didn't have to worry about the last two steps of Maslow's hierarchy of needs. My grades were not the greatest, coming from the fact I went to a 'prestigious' local school in my hometown. Regardless of the school I came from, I still hated studying. The education system is rigged. Teachers, tuitions, and parents cared more about grades than anything else. If they're so fixated on grades... something something about learning? I saw it from a tweet somewhere.
My social life was almost non-existent because I was socially awkward in school, but my parents rather me study and help out in the house than hang out with my close friends.
By default I was mainly on the internet.
But I was unsure what I want to do.
I could have searched for ways I could do in university on the internet. It didn't occur to me at all. I sort of felt resigned that it had to be something that's respectable in society and the norm and since my parents were able to pay for my tuition fees, i felt obligated to choose something that's 'useful'. So I chose business for college, then accounting and finance in university as a default. Again, feeling resigned.
I did once half jokingly brought up I wanted to do graphic designing but my parents completely brushed me off. I never brought it up ever again after that.
I guess that'ts the story a lot of Asians in Asia tell ourselves — we feel indebted to our parents so we should in turn do something respectable for them.
I've recently started going for group coaching classes with Charlene and one thing that was obvious but never occurred to me consciously "would your parents be happy to see you unhappy?".
I never considered
But had I gotten what I thought I wanted at any of these junctures, I would’ve been miserable. Each “failure” pushed me in a new direction I would’ve never considered on my own. — Corey Wilks tweet