Day 96 - Perfectionism of another
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Aug 28, 2021 06:50 AM
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Aug 28, 2021 06:50 AM
My SO opened up to me about a few things he talked to his therapist. We're generally already open to each other about feelings and emotions, but we sometimes still miss telling each other some of the context.
It's already the things I'm aware about, but with more context behind the reasons.
One of the things we talked about is perfectionism. If I thought my perfectionism is bad enough, his version of it is on another level. Chances are you are a creator or a builder from the Twitter space, and we're pretty aware that to get things done, we need to take action regardless of the quality at first and if there are any traction. We're aware that process matters more, things take time, and we know it takes hard work (We just need to be reminded time to time).
But for his case, he needs to see the tangible results almost immediately. If his writings don't get traction, then what's the point of writing if no one reads it — is his reasoning. This is something he's working on, and will take a lot of unlearning. He likes to work out though, because even though he knows that it takes time to build up muscles, he can feel it (through the body pain and aches) from the workouts.
I can't say much more, but maybe this can be used as a separate prompt to write more about in detail about how I feel about it.